Is this correct:
1) I didn't talk to her male co-worker; I didn't talk to her boyfriend; and I didn't talk to another man who knows her. But I've talked to quite a few men who are close to her.
\Here 'another man that knows her' is a specific man the speaker has in mind. The speaker has talked to quite a few men who know her. That specific man is among the men the speaker has not talked to.
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