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wedding invitations

Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2001 6:03 pm
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We have looked every where on the site using ctrl F and all the other possible ways of searching and have found nothing having to do with our specific problem.

My fiance and I are getting married this summer and both have our own apartments. Instead of registering like most engaged people, we want to look at larger things like furniture and vehicles. Is there an appropriate way to word the invitation to ask for money in lieu of gifts for our wedding?

Submitted by Jayne Reimche (Portland - U.S.A.)

wedding invitations

Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2001 6:17 pm
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If you are thinking of buying us a small something to celebrate our wedding, we should really like you to consider giving us money instead of a gift. This is because we are saving up to buy an offroad vehicle/sofa/motorised lawnmower and we are still quite a way from our target. By contributing to this purchase you will be making us just as happy as if you had chosen a gift yourselves, and your names will of course be recorded in the golden book we intend to leave on display at the wedding reception - although individual amounts will not be detailed.

However large or small the amount you decide to give you will be making us really happy by helping to purchase a lasting reminder of our wedding.

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Reply from jim ransom (London - England)

wedding invitations

Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2001 6:32 pm
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Just establish a bridal registry at John Deere or the Hummer or Cadillac agency! *G*

Reply from Leif Thorvaldson (Eatonville - U.S.A.)

wedding invitations

Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2001 6:46 pm
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Call it a "Greenback Wedding."
Reply from Al of Rhode Island (Providence RI - U.S.A.)

wedding invitations

Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2001 7:01 pm
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SuperWeddings.com, Letitia Baldridge, and Miss Manners all confirmed my feeling that it's a bad idea to specify your gift preference in writing. Here's what SuperWeddings.com has to say on the matter.

"In terms of indicating your preference for monetary gifts, the proper way to do this, in keeping with the rules of wedding etiquette, is to 'get the word out' through word-of-mouth. Ask close friends and family members to pass word along that this is your gift preference. Never should any reference to a preference for a monetary gift be printed on the wedding invitation; to do so is considered socialy incorrect."

Lois Martin, January 23, 2004
Reply from Lois Martin (Birmingham, AL - U.S.A.)